Posts Tagged ‘Open Relationships’
Do you consider yourself to be a person with a disability?
I have a genetic mutation that requires medication to maintain normal blood chemistry. I will be on this medication indefinitely, and cannot consume alcohol while on it. I do not consider this condition/mutation/medication to be a disability. However, the atheist social culture is very much centered on alcohol consumption. So, when the typical atheist “day” is over, I feel unable to participate in the “social” aspect afterwards.
Have you (or do you personally know someone who has) felt out-of-place or limited your involvement with an atheist community because of disability-related situations?
Aside from the description offered above, the only other thing that has made me personally uncomfortable is the assumption that younger atheists make that all relationships are open. It’s really emotionally disturbing when my committed, exclusive partner and I are propositioned by people who know we are together. It shows a fundamental lack of respect to both of us to assume (rather than ask) that we are in an open relationship and just skip ahead to the propositioning step. I find nothing wrong with open relationships, but if someone is interested in me or my partner, the polite thing to do is to first ask privately if we are in an open relationship, rather than just assume we are, and proceed to ask for sex. It’s just disrespectful.
What steps could atheist communities take to become more inclusive?
Offer a sober environment as an alternative to alcohol centered social activities. Oftentimes, the only social activity provided is in a bar, or a house party at which most people drink to excess. An alternative that would allow non-drinkers to participate without feeling awkward or obliged to explain their sobriety would be nice.
Response #68 from the Ableism in Atheism survey.